House parties and connectionsSaturday, July 20, 2013
I need to rewatch all the Before Sunrise and Sunset movies before the new Before Midnight... Travelling, you meet a lot of new people, many of whom will become good friends. But while you may have had a good connection in that short period of time you were together..
Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy have an amazing one evening together, on a spree, in some European city. They had a great connection and yet they both knew it may be their only time together. I guess it's different nowadays when even though you have parted, there are still the many social network portals such as Facebook, Google Chat and the like through which the relationship can still continue. The two characters could have developed a long distance relationship. Would it have lasted for long? Would they soon have tired of the personality differences as well as the time differences? The film sure would not have been so romantic if they had, in that case.
Online connectedness can be tiring. You don't get a rest from the instant messages and anxiety increase about the lack or the slowness of the other recipient's answers. I hate text messages because they take up so much time, but without conveying the full emotions of the situation, which would also lapse when dragged out by long pauses between the conversation. That goes for both short and long distance relationships, actually.
I am sad to be leaving my friends in NZ, both the old and the recently made. It's really quite bitter sweet, this transition from short to long distance relationships. With the old, we have endured the distance hardships many a times. Moving cities/countries/continents every six months makes you realise who your true friends are, with whom I can connect to regardless of where I am stationed. The new ones though, perhaps I shouldn't even have started the relationships, but who knows how they will end up? Just short sweet memories that fade with time, becoming all the more sweeter in the hazy outlines of your souvenirs, or ones that actually strengthen even more, even when physically apart, with the aid of those ever present social media portals?
There was a house dinner party this week. With great food and drinks, plates and bottles stacking up as the night got darker. How am I to know how these new connections will end?